When a man discovers that he is going to be a father soon, particularly if it is the first time, he may find it exiting but it is also natural for him to feel a bit overwhelmed and for fear to start racing through him as he realizes how much his life is about to change and the new responsibilities he will have. One of his main concerns is likely to be whether or not he can maintain and provide for his family. During all this , he will be financially taxed and he will be expected to provide emotional support for his partner throughout the pregnancy. These are some big changes and of course they can be overwhelming although some men try to hide their feelings.
Many men are skeptical about their ability to cope with labor. Many men wonder if they will be able to deal with seeing their partner in pain and to deal with the whole process of birth. They fear that they might just break down emotionally and not be of much help, it is a very embarrassing if not humbling thought for a man. The most common fear is whether or not they will be a good father to this new life they helped to create, first time fathers of course feel the brunt of this insecurity.
Coupled with all of that we find that most men are afraid to air out these insecurities and may wind up getting a bit depressed. Unfortunately while we see so many support groups for first time mothers it is quite rare to spot one for fathers, this is a shame as a lot of men could benefit from such support, they would realize that their feelings are not just confined to them but that many people also experience this as well.
Men are constantly afraid for the health of their unborn child and the mother. There is always a thought in the back of their mind that something might go wrong with either the baby or their partner. This kind of thinking drives fear into a lot of men and it is constantly with some of them. Men also fear that their partners will love the baby more than them and that they will be excluded and that their partners will no longer have any time for them.
The parallel fear to this is the one that may make a man begin to wonder if he will no longer be relevant to his partner, he fears that she will love the new baby more than him and that she will no longer have time for him. This thought can often bring a lot of guilt, after all it is his own baby that the man finds himself jealous of, again, these are normal fears that should not be swept under the rug but discussed with the man’s partner.
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