What comes to mind when you hear the phrase: “It is easy to have a great parent teenager relationship”? Knowing what you know about raising teenagers you may be apt to think that the person who penned the words is a little crazy or arrogant or perhaps a little cheeky? Notwithstanding, the art of asking the right questions is a useful skill in parenting. Framing questions in a positive context stimulates the brain to seek positive solutions.
When you are normally confronted with problems, such as in your parent teenager relationship, words like “frustration”, “difficulty”, “stressed”, “strained”, “confrontation”, “argument” and other similar negative terminology probably come to mind. Use of these kinds of descriptive words highlight a problem. When fed into your computer like brain, what kind of response can you expect?
If you feed questions into your brain that focus on the negative, don’t expect that useful and creative solutions will emerge. If you were doing a Google search and typed in “problems in parent teenager relationships”, your computer will do a search based on the words you typed in. If your words are focused on what you don’t want such as “problems”, all you will get is data about “problems” such as “troubled youth”.
Content focused on negatives is not designed to take you where you want to go in your parent teenager relationship. Questions that are steeped in negatives will more likely result in despair rather than hope. The reason for this is that such questions tend to cause you to relive past negative experiences instead of delivering solutions.
On the other hand, if you type in “parent teenager relationship solutions” into your search engine or your brain that can be likened to a computer, you are more likely to get search results that suggest where you want to go in your relationship.
If you felt light, empowered and relaxed when you asked the question: “Why is it so easy to have a great parent teenager relationship?” then please keep asking the question. The universe is then bound to send you the answers that when implemented will create a happy, wonderful and respectful parent teenager relationship.
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