During my adolescent years I distinctly remember that I was always checking to see whether what I was doing was right and would meet the approval of my parents. In retrospect, my observation of my own parents leads me to now believe that most of the communication in our parent teenager relationship consisted of my parents directing and correcting me. In other words, much of the dialogue was about them telling me what to do and what I had done wrong. But what about the miracle that is ‘me’?
There was very little if any celebration for who I was as a person or recognition of what I was doing that could be considered good or noteworthy.Think for a moment how my personal development might have been enhanced had my parents put some attention on affirming my intrinsic value?
The truth be told, all parents have a responsibility that goes way beyond taking care of the physical needs of their children. In fact every parent has a duty of care to celebrate and uphold their child’s divine internal value.
It is quite understandable then that so many teens and adults alike, suffer from low self esteem and often fail to set and achieve their goals in life. In other words, they fail to achieve because they seriously lack self belief. The root of such self limiting beliefs, I daresay, can be traced back to the quality of their relationship with their parents.
It can be said that the vast majority who fail to make serious money online simply spit the dummy and conclude “this is too hard”. But more to the point, they simply fail to believe that by persevering and doing what it takes, they would break through and reach their promised land. Could it be then that this vast majority of people lacked someone in their life who believed in them absolutely?
Research reveals that people have the greatest chance of success in life when they give most of their attention to what is going right as opposed to what is going wrong. The language of champions is filled with positive and empowering thoughts and ideas. This appears to be especially true when they face obstacles on their life path.
So what is the implication here as it relates to your parent teenager relationship? As the parent you have the role of a coach who has been summoned by the universe to raise your child to become a champion on their journey of life. The best and only way to achieve that, aside from all the strategies, skills and knowledge required, is to celebrate the divine nature of your child.
How is your relationship with your teenager tracking? Are you able to talk without ending up emotionally drained, worried or at your wits end? If so, there is hope on the horizon. Before you do anything else, check out parenting expert, Paul Saver’s seven FREE videos that are designed to transform your parent teenager relationship . Simply click on the link and discover the parenting genius that is YOU.
