Directing and correcting your kid as a way of parenting as well as the laissez-faire or ‘hands off’ approach tp parenting are seriously flawed particularly when applied to a parent teenager relationship. Both of these common traditional approaches to parenting ususally end up with destructive consequences. Rather, by following the lead taken in business and sporting circles, a coaching approach to parenting can prove to be beneficial.
Since I have adopted a coaching approach in raising our four teenagers, my wife and I have observed at least seven positive developments in our children. Such developments I believe have arisen because of an improved quality of our parent teenager relationships.
Here are seven benefits that can be achieved through using a coaching approach to parenting your teenager.
1. Teenagers who are clearly more motivated and driven to succeed. This can be seen in practices such as visioning, goal setting and in taking action.
2. Teenagers who are more open and willing to communicate. This is reflected in their willingness to initiate conversations.
3. Teenagers who have developed greater emotional stability. This shows up in fewer emotional outbursts and more respectful dialogue.
4. Teenagers who become problem solvers. Instead of giving up despair when confronting an obstacle, they are able to apply themselves with the inner belief that solutions are waiting to be unlocked.
5. Teens who recognise that making mistakes is part of their learning curve in life.
6. Teenagers who are more at peace within. This is reflected in less arguments, less confrontation and a willingness to listen to the view points of others.
7. Teenagers who have become clearer in identifying who they are, their passions and purpose in life.
It could be that in your present parent teenager relationship you have already been practicing coach like strategies that have yielded good results. Alternatively you may be still practicing old school parenting methods and feel like you are banging your head against a brick wall.
Irrespective of the nature of your parent teenager relationship, it’s good to do a periodical relationship stock take. Determine what is working and keep doing it. Also determine what you are doing that is failing to deliver the results you want and replace it with something else.
I am confident that what will emerge in your parenting tool and skill sets will be coach like practices that will help you build a warm, loving and respectful parent teenager relationship.
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